Best years of your life are still to come

Posted Monday, Jun. 10, 2013  comments  Print Reprints

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Dear Ann,

The people who are telling you that this is the best time of your life are full of baloney. Oh, they mean well, of course. But here’s what I want you to know. This is NOT the best time of your life. You may be relieved to hear that.

Some of the people you see at school look like they’ve got it made, but honestly, appearances can be deceiving. Everybody has problems, visible or not. The things you are struggling with now are things you will either overcome or abandon. Loneliness is temporary. Your fears, your embarrassments, and your failures will give you the ability to empathize with people you have not even met yet. Your scars will become badges of knowledge and honor. You don’t gain nearly as much from winning as losing, but you haven’t had time to learn that yet. You hear the words, but you don’t comprehend the meaning.

Don’t worry that you don’t have a lot of friends now. They’ll accumulate around you as the years go on and one day, I promise, you WILL have people whose friendship you cherish and who like you just exactly as you are. Quit trying to fix everything. You aren’t perfect, but you aren’t supposed to be.

And, I hate to say it, but your mom was right. About a lot of things, but most specifically, she was right when she told you that you need do every job in such a way that people will miss you when you’re gone. Keep working hard, and get up every single day expecting something good to happen. You get what you look for, and I know what’s coming for you. (I’ve already done it, and it’s going to be fantastic.)



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