Loving, denigrating, profane text messages read during counselor trial

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FORT WORTH -- A Tarrant County prosecutor read an array of text messages on Wednesday -- some of them threatening, some denigrating, others profane -- that a wife claims were sent from their marriage counselor, the same woman who was having an affair with her husband.

The marriage counselor, Sheila Loven, 47, of Euless, is on trial this week charged with sexual assault stemming from allegations that she used her influence as a counselor to take advantage of an emotionally unstable patient.

Loven and the husband had sex for more than two months in 2009 before the couple compared notes and realized how she had deceived them.

One text from Loven to the husband said: "When are you going to figure out you are nothing without me. I made you into a man."

Later, many of the text messages and phone messages later became threatening after the couple complained to the Arlington police that they were being harassed and complained to the Texas State Board of Examiners of Marriage and Family Therapists and to Loven's supervisors.

One text from Loven to the wife said: "And then he talks about your body so bad while he's touching every inch of mine."

The names of the couple are not revealed because the Star-Telegram does not identify victims of sexual assault.

'A God thing'

During Loven's sexual assault trial the wife told the jury that she searched for a Christian marriage counselor who would mirror the values that she and her husband shared. The wife testified that she believed she found the perfect counselor in Loven.

After two therapy sessions with both of them, which included one with their son, Loven told the couple that they needed to undergo individual treatment sessions because the wife felt responsible for the husband's emotional well-being.

Loven used the separate therapy sessions to pit the wife against the husband, the wife testified. Long after Loven began having an affair with the husband, she called the husband a narcissist, stubborn, complained he would not come to therapy sessions and said he did not follow her directives.

"There was nothing I did not tell her," the wife testified. "I thought that she genuinely cared about me and I told her how lucky I was to have found her. She told me it was a God thing. She would always give me a big hug before I left."

After the husband moved into a separate residence, he would plead with the wife to let him come back home, the wife testified. She told the jury her husband would call her dozens of times a day claiming to be suicidal. The wife said suddenly the calls slowed to a trickle.

Affair revealed

On Sept. 18, 2009, the wife met with Loven at a Grapevine restaurant and told her that she believed her husband had a new girlfriend and said that he did not call much anymore, the wife told the jury. Then Loven and the wife theorized about who his paramour may be.

"She was quiet for awhile and then she said: 'It's me, it's me,'" the wife told the jury.

"For a year you told me what a mess-up he is and you're a licensed professional counselor," the wife said she told Loven. "Why would you want him? She said everything that she said about him is what she loved about him. As she left she hugged me and told me that she loved me."

The wife testified that she went to a bar afterward and had a couple of drinks.

After that the couple had several long talks about what had happened to them and concluded that Loven had deliberately tried to sabotage their marriage in order to have an affair with the husband, according to the wife's testimony.

One text from Loven to the husband said: "She's getting colder toward you isn't she. She'll never be able to get past you loving me."

According to the State Board's website, Loven voluntarily surrendered her professional counselor's license on April 25, 2010.

Testimony is expected to continue Wednesday afternoon in state District Judge Ruben Gonzalez's court.

Mitch Mitchell, 817-390-7752

Twitter: @mitchmitchel3

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