Q: My boyfriend has been divorced for four years. We have lived together for two years. He has three kids, ages 5, 7 and 9. His ex-mother-in-law takes care of his kids when they are not with their mother, which is the majority of the time. The evening visits are usually at the ex-mother-in-law's home. The ex just adopted two more kids - an 8-month-old and a 2-year-old. These kids are also at the ex-mother-in-law's home and are now bonding with my boyfriend's children. His ex is also in and out of this house while he is there. He knows this set-up makes me uncomfortable. Should I accept? Or should he change?